Speaking about someone.

If you speak unkindly about someone, the effect is exactly the same as if you speak unkindly to someone. The only difference is, you may feel you save face through anonymity by not being identified as one who is criticizing, but anonymity is meaningless here. Speaking against someone, whether present or absent, creates the same hurt, creates the same barrier to the soul, and therefore you are urged to mold your approach to those around you in such a way that you search for what is good in others, and you think about what is good in others, and that you actively encourage what is good in others.